How to Stop Worrying And Start Living – I remember when I was in school, I was constantly worried about everything, especially about my studies, and what’s going to happen if I am going to get bad grades. What I am going to do after that, How I am going to explain that to my parents, and sometimes I would remember something bad that happened to me in the past, and I will start thinking and stressing myself about it as if it’s happening right now, I would get upset just by remembering it.
How to Stop Worrying And Start Living
The problem with worrying is that you can’t enjoy life, your whole day is just spoiled because someone criticized this morning and the rest of the day, you keep stressing yourself of what kind of assholes is he that he criticized you. It sounds ridiculous, but that’s how most people live their lives, people keep worrying about stuff that happened in the past that they have no control. Over and can’t change anymore like why I didn’t do this instead of that, and about the future that might never happen.
We keep imagining lots of things that would never happen in a million years. Let me give you an example, just last week, I was having my finals, whenever I would meet any of my friends or classmates, I would find them constantly worried about the finals. They are worried that it’s going to be too hard and they are not ready for it, and now after the finals, they worry about the grades that they are going to get.
You see how stupid is that, you worry about something, and once that thing ends, you start worrying about something else and the cycle keeps going on. Yes, finals are important, your grades are important but you don’t have to worry about any of them because, at the end of the day, it is not going to help you in any way.
I mean it only spoils your day and just wastes your time, and you could simply put that time into studying more, and probably you are going to get way much better grades than wasting your time worrying. And the way Dale Carnegie suggests stopping worrying is by simply imagining the worst-case scenario lets say that you didn’t do good in one of your exams, then, what’s the worst-case scenario, what’s the worst thing that could happen to you?
Like someone is going to come and chop your head and that would be the end of your life?!! Nothing even close to that would ever possibly happen. Let’s be clear, the worst-case scenario is that you will fail that subject and will have to retake it in the next semester, and this time you have plenty of time to study, and hopefully, you are going to do much better, that’s it. And Remember this is the worst-case scenario, but in reality, maybe instead of an A, you might just get a B. that’s all.
Let me give you another example, let’s say you have a job interview, tomorrow and you can stop worrying, again ask yourself this question, What’s the worst thing that could happen? They may not accept you and There are thousands of other companies all around where you might find a better job.
The point that I am trying to say is that the worst thing that is going to happen to us is not that bad, it’s not what’s in our mind, it’s way much simpler than that. Instead of spooling your days and most importantly wasting your life by constantly worrying, you can simply let it go and enjoy life. You have to understand how the brain works, if you don’t clarify to yourself, what is the worst thing that could happen, your brain will start imagining all sorts of nonsense that will keep you worrying, things that will never happen, so if you clarify to your self that no matter what, this is the worst possibility.
Your brain will stop imagining all those freaking unreal things, and that can help you to stop worrying. Just to clarify, it doesn’t mean that you should never think of the future and always focus on the present, that’s wrong, you should think of your future, you should plan, set goals but you should.