Life Lessons Your Parents Won’t Teach You – I’m sure your parents did the best they could to raise you into a model citizen, but there are still so many other things they probably didn’t teach you about life. And it’s generally understood that people don’t learn these essential life lessons until it’s too late.
They can teach you to ride a bike (with training wheels, of course) and swim (or doggy paddle), and also how to tie your shoes, among many others. But because your parents aren’t superheroes (no matter what they told you), it’s impossible that they could have taught you everything there is to know about being an adult.
So, we thought we could give them a helping hand because, in this article, we’ll be looking at ten essential lessons they might have missed. So, let’s get into it.
10 Life Lessons Your Parents Won’t Teach You
1. You won’t like everyone, and everyone won’t necessarily like you.
Although by now you may already be aware that as a child you may not like all children, most parents never tell their children that there may be children who dislike them for no apparent reason. After all, there is no reason in a parent’s mind why any child on the face of the earth wouldn’t like their precious angel.
Therefore they seldom bring it up with their kids. However, I believe that as a parent, you should introduce the subject to your child by explaining that, just as you may dislike tomatoes, some children may dislike you. Everybody isn’t a fan of everyone else, and adults are in the same boat. That’s just how life is.
2. Knowing Your Worth And What You Deserve
This is a difficult notion for many people to grasp. People conflate being the best at something with being deserving of it. The truth is that people decide their worth. Look at what you already have if you want to figure out how much you think you’re worth. You stopped yourself from having more at some point. It makes no difference how tall someone is, how educated they are, or anything else.
If you believe you are entitled to happiness, you either set out to achieve it or realize that all you need to do is let go of your misery. So, rather than questioning why you deserve something, reflect on why you don’t. Nothing you do on the surface will make you deserving of anything. The terms deserving and earned are distinct and should not be used interchangeably. Even if you have to put in some effort, your right to it is unaffected. Decide what you want, and go after it. The answer is yes, you are entitled to it.
3. Everyone isn’t good at everything.
You will be good at some things and terrible with others, no matter how hard you try. You will know some things you’re good at and some things you aren’t, probably by the time you’re in high school. Parents understandably want their young children to try everything, but they rarely explain the notion that no matter how hard their child tries to be good at something, they may not attain that lofty goal due to circumstances beyond their control. Adults, on the other hand, are well aware that there are some activities we passionately want to be good at but aren’t a natural fit for us.
We aren’t going to excel at some things, no matter how hard we try, and that’s perfectly acceptable. There are many other things that you will realize you’re good at over time; you simply have to keep trying and looking for them if you haven’t found them yet.
4. Get Brutally Honest With Yourself
Know who you are and what that implies. Taking “personal inventory” is a term used in 12-step programs. Make a list of your strengths, shortcomings, fears, desires, and what is preventing you from attaining your goals. When people try this for the first time, they may become disoriented.
Many things can be discovered by asking yourself, “why?” Examine why you’re terrified of some things or why you haven’t returned to school despite your desire. Whether you realize it or not, there is an underlying rationale for everything you do. Tell the truth about what’s going on inside of you.
Then, be open and honest about your plans for dealing with it. Take steps to overcome your fear of something. Discover the ways you self-sabotage yourself if you’re not getting what you desire. It’s fine to uncover aspects of yourself that you don’t like; but, you must decide what you will do about them. Many poor choices are made as a result of past disappointments and concerns. Watch your future unfold as you recover from these.
5. Life isn’t fair.
Sometimes bad things happen for no good reason. This is the difficult one that no parent likes to tell their child, but it must be said at some point. When your child’s small fish dies or a friend’s parent dies, it’s difficult to know what to say. I suppose religion can provide some comfortable explanations for certain parents and their children, but I don’t believe that the children find those answers as comforting as the parents do.
Perhaps the best we can do is acknowledge that life isn’t always fair. Things go wrong from time to time. But there is a lot more good in our lives, and we need to concentrate on it. After that, you get them a new fish, and life inevitably marches on. The things we don’t talk about might sometimes become the bigger elephants in the room.
There are already too many elephants in a young child’s room, so it might be preferable to confront them head-on to lessen their size and impact. But who’s the wiser? You might think it’s a good idea to tell your child that his fish was only sleeping belly-up in his bowl and that when he returned home from school, his fish will be awake.
And quickly you’ll realize why that was a big mistake because the next question is likely to be why his fish has changed color when they return home from school. The bottom line is, that no one knows all of the answers. However, we can attempt to be honest.
6. How to engage in small talk.
Did your parents allow you to spend the day in your room playing World of Warcraft instead of going to Grandma’s nursing home? It turns out you were missing out on an important skill: how to talk to Grandma for an hour about nothing to acquire that Frosty your mom promised. Making small conversations may not seem like a huge problem when you’re a kid. After all, it’s simply talking about the weather and sports, right? As an adult, it’s crucial in a variety of situations, from engaging your boss at a Christmas party to not appearing as a loner at the bar.
7. Lifestyle creep is real.
There is such a thing as lifestyle creep. For those of us who have no idea what I’m talking about, take out a notebook and pen and take notes. When you were a youngster, life was very simple: no rent, no bills, no dinners with friends, and no loans.
However, it appears that as you get older and earn more money, the value of money falls. When I was 11, I recall thinking that a dollar could solve all of my problems. I could stock up on candies and chocolate, chicken and chips, and new stationery. $100 now feels like a dollar… or is it just me? You can have the best budgeting abilities on the planet, but you’ll still have to pay for them. The more money you earn, the more expenses you will incur. Perhaps you found the love of your life just as you received a great new bonus, and dinners and dates accumulate.
Perhaps you wish to have a child, but you know they are expensive. Perhaps you’ve finally reached a point where your company is profitable. Contracting freelancers, purchasing high-quality goods, and reinvesting all seem to be increasing your business costs. It seems like the more money you earn; the more expenses begin to grow too. And this brings us to the next life lesson.
8. Don’t take paracetamol for someone else’s headache.
This means, don’t take on someone else’s problems, for example, debt. It’s one thing to be considerate, and it’s one thing to be inept; it’s also quite another to be ignorant.
Don’t be a fool. Before you get married, create a business with a colleague or friend, or co-sign a responsibility for someone else, think about it very hard. You’re effectively taking some of their financial problems, and the consequences might be… ugly if they’re deeply in debt.
If a buddy with a bad credit score defaults on a loan with you as a guarantor, it will look bad on your record. Getting married to someone who can’t manage their credit card debt isn’t going to be a happy ending when they’re using your shared credit card to spend lavishly. If you start a business with a partner who doesn’t understand the basics of running a business, you’ll be bankrupt before you realize it. If you’re asked to help someone else with their financial problems, you should proceed with caution. You see, you should never put yourself in the position of having to pay for the mistakes of others.
9. Letting Go of Negative People
It’s not uncommon for people to feel obligated to hang on to toxic relationships. Negative relatives are frequently responsible for keeping people under their thumb. Do yourself a favor and realize that you owe no one anything. “If you loved me, you’d put up with my unpleasant behavior,” is a good way for someone to get under your skin.
However, the truth is that if they cared about you, they’d stop acting badly toward you. They could also be unaware of the harm that their actions are creating. Find out about pessimistic people by reading about them. There are a number of different kinds. They have a propensity to engage in undesirable habits.
They may accuse you of behaving in ways they themselves do, or they may claim you are doing the identical things they do. That’s why knowing who you are and what you’re accountable for is critical, the rest is up to them.
Be aware that you can’t “make” others mad or alter them in the same way you can’t “make” them mad. Getting rid of bad influences in your life will make it easier in the long run. Negativity is a part of everyone’s makeup, but healthy people are aware of it and honest with themselves about it, so they can do something about it. It’s not a good idea to exclude everyone from your circle of friends. You have to decide how much you’re prepared to put up with. Consider how much time and energy you’re wasting on a poor relationship. If others do not respect your boundaries, you may need to set even stricter ones, such as separating yourself from them.
10. Learn to Love Yourself Truly.
It’s not enough to have a positive attitude toward oneself if you’re not doing anything about it. However, there is more to it than meets the eye. You treat yourself with respect, make sound decisions, eliminate self-defeating habits, and take a host of other positive actions.
You set out to accomplish what you believed was best for you. Self-destructive behavior is a sign that you don’t value yourself. The preceding procedures may have revealed the underlying reasons why you dislike yourself. The option is yours, as with everything else in life. Step by step, you can choose to accept and love yourself more. Begin right away.
There are numerous lessons that our parents impart to us. Many of life’s lessons are sadly not taught to children. These items are left for them to discover at a later date in their lives. Knowing these things ahead of time could save a lot of time. Please spend a few minutes reflecting on these ten life lessons and making an internal appraisal of them.
Which one are you currently putting into action in your life? Which one of the following could you begin practicing now to enhance your quality of life?